tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043257700259024558.post4537680900006042871..comments2024-03-05T00:34:52.372-08:00Comments on Rick Chung Vancouver Journal: Paper HeartsRick Chunghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07049608135750503265noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043257700259024558.post-72745625681847132082009-01-26T21:33:00.000-08:002009-01-26T21:33:00.000-08:00That's an interesting concept, I'd like to see a c...That's an interesting concept, I'd like to see a concrete example of what that means, sacrificing something vital to solidify a relationship. <BR/>However, I would like to challenge the fundamental assumption here, which is that love is some kind of internal state or feeling that is hidden and must be shown or proven. In that case, love is an object that is concealed and the process is to reveal it, whether once or repeatedly over an amount of time. <BR/>Yet, my conception of love is that it is a verb, an action, that love itself is not hidden but IS the revelation. Love is not just hidden, but simply non-existent without love-ing. That love-ing is something you continually do. And sacrifice and giving of yourself is not something that happens for pushing your relationship depth over some kind of love threshold point, but rather is love. <BR/>You can't demand the act of sacrificial love because it's always a gift. You can't do anything but love-ing, that is, the active gifting of love. We live/love giving from infancy to deathbed, from complete dependence to complete dependence, with spurts of stubborn assertion.<BR/>Anyway, intellectualization has always been my defense mechanism of choice. Here's my concrete advice: to draw yourself out of your existential funk, try giving your love to others. I know it's in there.Brenda Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037870131691926380noreply@blogger.com